The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out. Proverbs 20:5.

The holidays are a great time to reconnect with our family.  One of the ways we can encourage our children to grow wise is to ask questions when they are in the presence of older and wiser people. Just a few questions can draw wisdom from a humble, self-effacing saint. Our American culture values the young and disparages the old. The church is not immune to this blindspot.

But what questions to ask? I recently stumbled upon a pdf that has a number of good questions to ask. I highly recommend you take a look at this pdf. Pick out one or two questions and use it around the holidays or the next time you have someone into your house.

One problem. That list can seem pretty overwhelming. Here are a few that I pulled out and a few I added myself.

For the younger ones to ask older generations:images-1

1. What is one of your first, most vivid memories?
2. What was the house/apartment and neighborhood like where you grew up?
3. What were your favorite toys?
4. What big world events/inventions do you remember growing up?
5. When you grew up, did you have any family traditions associated with Christmas?
6. (If appropriate), how did you come to know Christ personally?
7. (If appropriate), how did you meet your spouse?
8. What do you like best about your spouse?
9. What do you wish you knew when you were my age?
10. What has been one thing God has taught you recently?

You could ask them one or more around the table. Or you could print down a few questions and make it a family scavenger hunt.

During this week, you will probably be interacting with family members you have not seen in a while. And the conversation will border on the shallow. How can you seize this intergenerational teaching moment and also deepen the conversations?