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What is Leadership in the Home?

 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive… 1 Timothy 3:4

Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well. 1 Timothy 3:12

Scripture tells us that elders and deacon are to manage their household well. The same word translated manage is used in Romans 12:8 and translated as leadership. So we could also say that an elder and deacon are to lead their households and children well.

Yet, in spite of the fact that all parents are to be leaders, few actually think clearly about what a godly leader does. Having a clear understanding of godly leadership will help an individual in the home and in the church.

Defining Godly Leadership

What exactly is […]

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Repentance – Twelve Reasons to Recover this Biblical Idea

Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord. Acts 3:19

I don’t hear the word repentance very much. We may think of it as an archaic term, associated with men who walked around downtown with sandwich boards proclaiming, “Repent for the end is at hand.” The term seems outdated, patriarchal, narrow-minded, and restrictive.

Yet, I want to argue that it is one of the most loving things you can say to an individual. If churches and families lose this biblical concept and framework we are the poorer for it. Could it be we have raised a generation that has not inculcated this biblical teaching?

In one sense, the word is simple. To repent […]

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Dr. Tom Hines: A Baby’s First Year

What if you could listen to a wise pediatrician coach you through the first year of your baby’s life? What if he had information that could help you and your baby sleep through the night sooner. Would you be interested?

 Dr. Tom Hines has been a pediatrician for over 30 years and seen lots of babies. In addition, he and his wife, Mary Jo had four children of their own. He came to talk with me about his best advice that he would give for baby’s first year. 

If you are about to have a child listen closely for some great wisdom. If you know someone that is about to have a child, forward the link to them. Believe me, they will thank you when the parents […]

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Dr. Randy Stinson: How to Have a Peaceful Home

Do you want to have a peaceful home? Doesn’t everyone?

What exactly are the principles that should guide us in that?

For that matter, what exactly is a peaceful family?

You are going to love the countercultural but biblical insight Dr. Randy Stinson brings into having a peaceful family. This conversation came about because of his presentation entitled The Peaceful Home at the ERLC conference this past October. Dr. Stinson is a regular conference speaker on the subjects of adoption, parenting, marriage, and men’s leadership.

In this conversation we talk about: What exactly is a peaceful home? How to conquer sibling rivalry. And the importance of dad being the CFO – Chief Fun Officer.

I promise this conversation will be worth your time! 

Listen below or on itunes […]

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Dan Darling: The Dignity Revolution and Your Family

How do we raise children to respect those who are different from us? What biblical message and doctrines can help us encourage a young person to love all sorts of people?

On this podcast, I have the privilege to introduce you to a friend of mine, Dan Darling. He has recently released a book that is helpful for pastors and parents. It’s entitled The Dignity Revolution. In it, Dan lays out the case for understanding and then applying this idea of human dignity to many different areas.

I was excited to have this conversation with Dan. He is the Vice President of Communications for the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission. His writing has appeared in major news outlets like USA Today and CNN. He’s a contributing editor […]

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What Narrative Are We Telling Our Children?

I had a great time learning from Ed Shaw and Sam Allberry at the Living Out Local Course. This ministry is run by and aimed at Christian men and women who experience same-sex attraction. I believe these men and women are living heroes of the faith.

Several things bear repeating for a disciple-making parent.

Shaw and Allberry asked this question. “What narrative are we telling our young children? Many Christians will marry when they are adults. But not all. Some are eunuchs or make themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom (Matt 19).”

The Narrative
As parents, if we idolize marriage then our narrative may go something like this to our children. “Someday God will bring the right person along for you. Keep yourself pure and the Lord […]

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Overthinking or Underthinking Parenting?

I am staring at an article in a denominational newspaper written by a young pastor with doctorate degree from a leading seminary. In that article he makes a statement I have heard before. “Many young Christian parents are overthinking the parenting thing. Interestingly, the Bible has very little to say about specific techniques other than, ‘Feed em, love ‘em, don’t drive em crazy, and point em to Jesus.’”

As a pastor and an author of a book on parenting, I think this statement is glib and dangerous. I agree with some of his concerns. Unfortunately, his play for a laugh is harmful and takes a flat view of the Bible. Would he also say that the Bible’s view of salvation is “Jesus loves me this I […]

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Basics of Conflict Resolution and Peacemaking

Are you in the middle of a conflict in your family? In your church? Or at your work?

If you are, Do you understand what God’s word has to say about handling conflict?

Unfortunately, conflict is a part of every relationship – including our families.  If you are the parent of young children you certainly know that!

But most Christians are not equipped to handle the conflict in our relationships with others. And yet God in his grace has given us many principles to help us walk through disagreements. And to teach our children.

The following episode contains a short teaching I did on very high-level principles that come to us from God’s word. Specifically, I am walking us through some principles laid out by Ken Sande in the […]

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The Power of a Joyful Parent

Parenting is tough work. Whether toddlers or teens, there are challenges at every stage. For conscientious parents, seeking to raise their children to obey, love and follow the Lord, the to do list can grow long. Along with this comes an increased  sense of failure. In the midst of those challenges, it is easy to focus on just surviving. We can fall into stern obedience or lacksidasical martyrdom. I know I alternated between those.

Looking back on those years now, I wish someone had told me this –

“Focus on joy.”

Why?

Because God loves a cheerful parent.

In 2 Corinthians 9:7 Paul encourages generous financial giving. And then he states the principal underneath that encouragement – “God loves a cheerful giver.” It was John Piper who first called my […]

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The Happy Christian: Thoughts on the Surprising Duty of Joy

How happy is your family? How happy are you?

Is a happy family even possible?

In the middle of all this brokenness should a Christian even aim to be happy?

This episode is absolutely vital for disciple-making parents. Happy homes are the place where the gospel passes the most easily. In fact, joy is a preeminent fruit of holiness and yet often we see Christina homes where the mark of being godly is a serious and sour disposition.

Listen in to this message by Dr. David Murray as he explains the surprising duty of joy that should characterize the Christian.

 

 

If you are a parent, God has given you eternal souls to influence. In today’s culture, you need a strategy.

The Disciple-Making Parent will give you confidence in your parenting.

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