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Painful Love and Forgiveness

Blessed are those that mourn, for they will be comforted. Matthew 5:4

Our families will never be perfect. We will sin against each other and be sinned against. Relationships invariably involve pain. That is the way of love. How we choose to react to that pain will depend on our perspective.

C. S. Lewis makes clear that the choice is between loving and having a hard heart.

Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in […]

It’s Not About the Nail

Dedicated to husbands everywhere who are trying to love their wives! HT Denny Burk.

Wisdom for Parents with Young Children by Steve McKoy

I love this list by Steve McCoy. We were blessed with some great teaching and followed almost all of these (or tried to follow).  Thankfully there was agreement on these in our church. Though  you cannot point to a chapter and verse of the Bible for many of these, there is great wisdom here.

Believe Kids Are A Blessing
Read The Jesus Storybook Bible To Them
Pray With Your Kids Concerning Taking Risks
Teach *First Time Obedience*
Give Rules For Respectful Disagreement
Give Rules For Respectful Interruption
Give Rules For Being Respectful in Public
The Five Minute Rule (Warning)
Pre-Event Preparation/Conversation
Titles of Respect for Adults
Use Timers
Sharing Is Not Requested, It’s Essential
Boys Treat Girls Differently Than Boys .
Play Rough & Teach Kids To Get Over It
Kids Sit With You In Church
Ask Your Kids To Forgive […]

Verse List – Are You Easily Corrected?

Note: These verse lists are given as quick, topical studies to help moms and dads do studies on a date with their child, to shepherd an individual child, or for family devotions.

I recently sat down with one of my children to address the issue of correctability. All I had to do was look at one chapter of Proverbs – chapter 15.

Proverbs 15:5 – whoever heeds correction shows prudence.
Proverbs 15:10 – He who hates correction will die.
Proverbs 15:12 – A mocker resents correction; he will not consult the wise.
Proverbs 15:31 – He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise.
Proverbs 15:32 – He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.

And for good measure, I just came across […]

Loving Your Wife/Husband

Marital harmony is important to display the glory of the Christian life to our children. But we all need help. The following summary from  is convicting. Print it down and pray through it for yourself.

Andy Naselli

Here are some excerpts from chapter 12 of Paul David Tripp’s What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage (Wheaton: Crossway, 2010). 

(I added the three headings and the numbering. Everything else quotes Tripp.)

1. What is love?

Love is willing self-sacrifice for the good of another that does not require reciprocation or that the person being loved is deserving.

2. What does love look like in marriage?

Love is being willing to have your life complicated by the needs and struggles of your husband or wife without impatience or anger.
Love is actively fighting […]