Yet another article on the benefits of marriage. The blessing of marriage is attacked today. Good to remind our older kids the blessing of marriage. And are we modeling love for our spouse?
“The covenant sustains the love; not the other way around.”
“Affections come and go. The covenant sustains. We fall in love over and over again.”
“Divorce, never. Murder yes.”
“My wife has been married to five different men. All of them, me.”
“You always marry the wrong person.”
“Duty is the ground in which the flower grows. The solution is not to pull the flower up. The ground of promise is the ground that the flower grows.”
“The renewal of our marriage covenant is testifying about Christ’s covenant with us.”
This might not help some struggling couples but no, Christian couples do not divorce at the same rate as those who are not Christians. Several different sociologists have found that actively religious couples have a lower divorce rate. HT: Tim Challies
The factor making the most difference is religious commitment and practice. Couples who regularly practice any combination of serious religious behaviors and attitudes — attend church nearly every week, read their Bibles and spiritual materials regularly; pray privately and together; generally take their faith seriously, living not as perfect disciples, but serious disciples — enjoy significantly lower divorce rates than mere church members, the general public and unbelievers.
That may not help those Christian couples who are struggling. But it should encourage us to live differently […]
We continue to explore why God’s ways make sense when it comes to marriage. This is the third entry. Click here for part 1, here for part 2.
In a British study, Child Abuse by Mothers’ Boyfriends: Why the Overrepresentation?” in Child Abuse and Neglect 16 (1992): 541-51, Leslie Margolin found the incidence of child abuse with biological married parents, cohabitating parents, and mothers living with their boyfriends. What she found was startling.
1. Child abuse was twenty times higher for children living with their cohabitating parents than with biological, married parents.
2. Child abuse was thirty-three times higher for children living with their mother and her boyfriend when compared to biological, married parents.
God’s way as expressed in the Bible is still the best way. Social research bears […]
For some reason, church-going couples have compartmentalized their religious life and their marriage life. The two may never meet. So if we are having marriage conflicts, often the last thought is, “Have we prayed about it together?”
But praying together is in fact a balm for many of our problems and an inoculation for many others. Many of the problems we are having may be the result of neglecting prayer together. Besides the effect on God, praying together has the mystical effect of binding hearts together. Something happens when two individuals go to the throne of grace together.
How to start?
Be careful lest you become overly ambitious. Five minutes of regular prayer beats 30 minutes that starts and then stops. Ideally, prayer should be initiated […]
Marital harmony is important to display the glory of the Christian life to our children. But we all need help. The following summary from is convicting. Print it down and pray through it for yourself.
Here are some excerpts from chapter 12 of Paul David Tripp’s What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage (Wheaton: Crossway, 2010).
(I added the three headings and the numbering. Everything else quotes Tripp.)
1. What is love?
Love is willing self-sacrifice for the good of another that does not require reciprocation or that the person being loved is deserving.
2. What does love look like in marriage?
Love is being willing to have your life complicated by the needs and struggles of your husband or wife without impatience or anger.
Love is actively fighting […]