How to Be Effective in an Unstructured Day

I have been a paid pastor or in full time ministry for over 30 years. At the beginning, I remember wrestling with having so much time on my hands and trying to make it effective. Recently, I was asked what principles I follow to be a good steward of my time. These are not exhaustive but a start. Although this doesn’t specifically apply to parenting, I think it may be helpful to you. 1. Try to work a certain number of hours every day. Put yourself on a schedule. If you steal time in the middle of the day pay it back later. Work at least 8+ hours a day. To quote the old saying – “I find the hardier I work, the luckier I get.” 2. Set goals. Then […]


Interview with Dave Harvey, Part 1: Help for Those Who Love a Prodigal

Prodigal. What comes to mind when you hear that word? For some it may be Jesus’s beloved story of the father and the two sons. But for others, that word may be a son or daughter, husband or wife who has turned their back on the faith.

If you are an intentional follower of Jesus Christ, nothing can cause more pain than a child or spouse who suddenly turns their back on the Lord. Perhaps they become secretive and withdrawn. Then their sin comes out. Now there is public rebellion and repudiation. That brings alls sorts of emotions – shame, guilt, hopelessness and fear. 

In today’s podcast, we are going to talk with Dave Harvey about his book Letting Go: Rugged Love for Wayward Souls. Dave has walked […]

Jen Wilkin – Building Community in the Home

I had the privilege of hearing Jen Wilkin at the 2018 ERLC Convention. Her talk on building community was excellent. It will be worth your time.

Jen Wilkin – Building Community in the Home

Her main points.

Community comes through shared rules.Community comes through shared responsibility.Community comes through shared language.Community comes through shared affection.Community comes through shared time. Community comes through a shared faith.

If you are a parent, God has given you eternal souls to influence. In today’s culture, you need a strategy.

The Disciple-Making Parent will give you confidence in your parenting.


What is Leadership in the Home?

 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive… 1 Timothy 3:4

Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well. 1 Timothy 3:12

Scripture tells us that elders and deacon are to manage their household well. The same word translated manage is used in Romans 12:8 and translated as leadership. So we could also say that an elder and deacon are to lead their households and children well.

Yet, in spite of the fact that all parents are to be leaders, few actually think clearly about what a godly leader does. Having a clear understanding of godly leadership will help an individual in the home and in the church.

Defining Godly Leadership

What exactly is […]


Bullying and the Gospel: What’s a Parent to Say and Do?

Bullying is a common childhood problem.

How would you help your child if this happened to him or her? Are Christians always to turn the other cheek? How does the gospel apply?

Listen in as I have conversation with Kevin McKay about the wise way he walked his son through this very problem.

Nine Ways Your Church is Changing You for Good


Loving Jesus But Not Loving His Bride?

On his final night, Jesus said All men will know you my disciples if you love one another (John 13:35). To read the New Testament is to read documents that are filled with commands and assumptions that cannot be lived out except in community.

And yet, now comes a study that tells us that numerous Christians love Jesus but don’t like the church. 

While certainly the bride of Christ is not as beautiful as she will be and the body of Christ does not reflect the beauty of its head, to claim to love Jesus and not love his bride is self-deception. Any person who invites me to a party cannot tell me to leave my wife at home. We come […]


The Donut Date Journal 2: Family History Edition

I had just released The Disciple-Making Parent’s Donut Date Journal and it was doing quite well. I was excited about happy parents who were loving this time with their children. Then within one day of each other, I had similar requests. Two different young people each asked their parents:

‘Where is my journal to ask you questions?”

These parents contacted me and essentially said the same thing, “We love The Donut Date Journal. But could you please make one for children to ask questions of their parents?”

“Of course!” I thought to myself. “Why didn’t I think of that before? What a great way for children to show honor to their parents—by learning their parents’ stories!”

As I reflected more, I realized how valuable something like this would be […]


Book Review: Hold on to Your Kids

In Hold Onto Your Kids, (HOYK) authors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté argue that all children need attachment. If they will not receive that attachment from their parents, they will find it in peers. The job of parents is to press in and attach themselves to their children. If they do this then those children can resist the pull of the teen culture. The book is broken into five parts: The Phenomenon of Peer Orientation, How Peer Orientation Undermines Parenting, How Peer Orientation Stunts Healthy Development, How to Hold On to Our Kids, and Preventing Peer Orientation.

In the first section, The Phenomenon of Peer Orientation, they state that “The gap opening up between children and adults can seem unbridgeable at times.” “The secret of parenting […]

Celebrate Mom Campaign!

Today we kick off our Celebrate Mom Campaign!
We believe that moms are some of God’s hardest working, under-appreciated disciple-makers. Moms, you are not just raising kids, you are discipling the next generation!

In fact, you are a Disciple-Making Mom.

We want to celebrate you and give you a way to help others! Both moms and dads can participate.

This week, for two weeks only, we are offering coffee mugs that will celebrate you all year round.

One side proudly proclaims your calling as a Disciple-Making Mom or a Disciple-Making Dad.

The other side reminds you and your children that you have no greater joy than to hear that they are walking in the truth (3 John 4).

Blessing Other Moms Too
But we not only want to make the moms who know […]


Interview with Family Pastor Tom Burns

I recently had the privilege of interviewing Tom Burns. Tom is the Pastor of Family and Discipleship at Grace Community Church in Spofford NH.

I was encouraged and humbled as I found out how Tom is using The Disciple-Making Parent as a year-long emphasis for all the families in his church.  If you are a family pastor, it is often good to hear from another pastor in your shoes. If you are a pastor of a smaller church you can still gain some ideas that could be useful.

1. Tell us a little bit about your ministry, church, and people you are serving. 0:44

2. How have you used The Disciple-Making Parent in your church? 2:34

3. What are some of the effects you have seen by using this […]