For Our Young Men: A Teachable Moment in the News

Unfortunately, in our national scandal of General Petraeus, we have a teachable moment for our young men.

Solomon specifically warned his sons about this situation and the consequences:

Now, then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say.
Do not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths.
Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng.
Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death.
(Proverbs 7:24-27)

Time to lead our young men in prayer for themselves, for ourselves, for our church leaders, and for our nation’s leaders. (And for General Petraeus’ family). And run the other way.

By the grace of God, let us pray that we will stay true to the end.

Teach Your Child That True Love Doesn’t Wait

Excellent post here about why true love does not wait.

The author remarks that the subtle message she received was something like this, “Stay pure and God will provide a husband.” But when he doesn’t provide a husband, the young women are confused and may walk away from the Lord. Rather than seeking the Lord during that time and being all that God wants them to be, they are waiting.

I have argued here that we ought to give all of our children a high view of singleness. Traditionally, more women follow the Lord than men. If I want to prepare my daughters to follow the Lord to the fullest, I need to prepare them for the possibility of life-long singleness. Besides, unless we marry them off at […]

Gospel Focused Exhortations to Sexual Purity

From my last Sunday’s sermon on 1 Corinthians 6:12-20 Paul argues for their sexual purity in a surprising way. His gospel oriented approach starts with indicatives (indicators of what God has done) and then moves to imperatives (commands of what we are to do).

1. Articulating and Deconstructing the Lies. (vv. 12-13)
a. “All things are lawful” – Said by Corinthians to justify their sin. Often said by Christians as they are being tempted to sin. “God will forgive me.”
b. “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food.” – Also said by Corinthians to justify their sin. The underlying philosophy of the world today. In other words, sex is an appetite just like food. Sex is to be satisfied just like when I am thirsty or […]

The Negative Effects of Cohabitation – Continued

Once again, people are discovering that there are negative effects of cohabitating before you marry.
Cohabitation in the United States has increased by more than 1,500 percent in the past half century. In 1960, about 450,000 unmarried couples lived together. Now the number is more than 7.5 million.
The common belief?
In a nationwide survey conducted in 2001 by the National Marriage Project, then at Rutgers and now at the University of Virginia, nearly half of 20-somethings agreed with the statement, “You would only marry someone if he or she agreed to live together with you first, so that you could find out whether you really get along.” About two-thirds said they believed that moving in together before marriage was a good way to avoid divorce.
The truth?
But that belief is […]

Why Do We Let Them Dress Like This?

Interesting article at the Wall Street Journal (HT:BTW)

Why Do We Let Them Dress Like That: Women of a liberated generation wrestle with their eager-to-grow-up-daughters – and their own pasts.

Interesting to see non-Christians wrestling with the way they are letting their daughters dress. Even more interesting to peek over the shoulder of non-Christian women who are willing to verbalize the regret for their sexually promiscuous past.The writer is wrestling with her own advice and her past. Why does her generation of women let their girls dress so provocatively.
I have a different theory. It has to do with how conflicted my own generation of women is about our own past, when many of us behaved in ways that we now regret. A woman I know, with two […]

Why Living Together is Bad – Negative Effects of Cohabitation Part 2

In an earlier post, I had urged inoculating our children to the temptation to think that God’s standards are not for our best. Specifically, I had pointed out how cohabitating increases the chance a couple will break up. A recent NY Times article highlights research that found just that. They showed how prevalent this thinking is:

“From the perspective of many young adults, marrying without living together first seems quite foolish,” said Prof. Pamela J. Smock, a research professor at the Population Studies Center at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. “Just because some academic studies have shown that living together may increase the chance of divorce somewhat, young adults themselves don’t believe that.”

The authors found that the proportion of women in their late 30s who had ever cohabited […]

Why Living Together Before Marriage is Bad – Negative Effects of Cohabitation

The principle of inoculating our children teaches us to proactively bring up thoughts they will encounter in the world and actively deal with them.  Since the 60s, marriage has been under assault. Today we can see that the anti-marriage message has won among non-Christians.  Living together before marriage is the accepted norm. How will we handle this? We can tell them that it violates God’s word. But it helpful to also show that there are negative effects in this life of disobeying God. God’s word is for our best. We need to proactively bring the message of purity until marriage up. And since sin has consequences, we should expect that even nonChristians who violate God’s law experience some negative consequences. This interview with Michael McManus, […]