In regular friendship relationships you would never jump your friend the moment you saw them do something you questioned the wisdom of, or thought was wrong. So long as his life was not endangered you would not pounce on him about everything you saw him do or heard him say. You would bide your time, waiting for the proper moment.

Do your teenagers need less consideration?

I have been embarrassed sometimes to be with the parents of teenagers and hear them reprimand their children over every little thought. You have no biblical obligation to censure your children for everything they do that is irritating to you. You must increasingly make room for your teenagers differing style and manner, holding correction for moral and ethical failures.

Shepherding a Child’s Heart p. 207